Have you ever wanted to talk to a younger version of yourself? If you could have a conversation with the you that you were at eighteen what would you say?
I had this very thought last week and I reminisced about who I was at eighteen and what I might say to her. My eighteen year old self was lost, lonely, and broken. She was a good person who loved other people, maybe a little too much sometimes. She didn’t believe there were many good people in the world doing good things because this was not her experience. She was surrounded by a lot of negativity, and so it was only natural that she took a lot of this on in her beliefs about herself and others. She also didn’t believe that she was worthy of love, and her life seemed to be going against her most of the time. She didn’t have many people to look up to or teach her a better way. This was something she had to learn on her own.
I decided to sit down and write a note to that younger version of myself. I thought about all the things that have happened in my life since I was eighteen, both good and bad. This is what I would say to her.
First I would tell her to stop worrying so much. I worried a lot about everything, and mostly things that were completely out of my control. I also worried a lot about what other people thought about me. I would tell her to stop giving up her power, everything is going to work out. You’re completely safe.
There is so much more I would say.
I would tell her to stop beating herself up. Everyone makes mistakes and that’s okay. You’re not alone. You can and will learn from your mistakes and that is a good thing. Take that as a gift even if it doesn’t feel like it.
I would tell her to stop thinking that everyone else is so much better than her. Comparing yourself to others will get you nowhere. We’re all different and unique in our own way. Learn to embrace your uniqueness because this makes you who you are and you are absolutely wonderful.
Stop treating yourself like you are garbage. You have value and you deserve to be treated like a queen. You will one day, in the not too distant future meet an amazing man who will teach you this, but you must learn this yourself as well. Don’t depend on him or anyone else to tell you who you should be. Be authentic in who you are and if people don’t accept you that way they are not meant for you. Let them go.
I would tell her how beautiful, unique, special, and strong she is. In fact you have no idea how strong you truly are. One day you will need that strength and it will lead you out of your darkness.
Be grateful. Your gratitude is your saving grace. Even when it seems you have nothing to be grateful for. Focus on the things you want rather than those you don’t. Get into the practice of feeling gratitude for everything.
Forgive everyone and forgive often. This is another saving grace for you. You will often think you can’t do it, but all you need is to be wiling to try. This will set you free.
Watch your words and say what you want and not what you don’t. Everything you say is an affirmation and you attract that to you. Be careful what you are putting out there. You will learn a lot about your words and your energy and this information will form your life’s purpose.
Be open. You are going to meet many amazing earth angels along your path. Be open to their advice, inspiration and let them help you. You are going to learn so much about yourself through them. Don’t be afraid.
I will NOT tell her that in her 48th year will be the worst summer of her life. The events of that summer will shatter her heart and bring her to her knees.
What I will say is that all of the things she has learned in her wonderfully, amazing life will prepare her for her future. These tools and wisdom learned will help her survive turbulent times and get back up once she’s been knocked down.
Most importantly get back up and never stop getting up. When you’ve learned a lesson pay it forward. When you’ve been given a gift in the way of help, wisdom, lessons and advice, pay it forward. The world needs more helpers, more love, and more compassion. We need more people that are willing to share their gifts to help others. Share your stories so that other people will know it is safe to share their stories. Then maybe we will start to come together and feel less alone.
Lastly, I will tell her how much she is loved even if it doesn’t feel that way. She is worthy of love and it’s okay to love yourself. It’s important and imperative that you learn to love yourself because no one else will until you start.
Much Love from your older self,
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